You’re not tired. You’re chronically avoiding your own stillness.

Some of y’all really need to hear this:

Sit. TF. Down. Somewhere.

You don’t need another productivity hack.
You don’t need a new planner.
You don’t need to rearrange your closet again to feel in control of your life.

You need rest.
Like actual rest.
Not doom-scrolling rest. Not half-asleep-with-the-TV-on rest.
Not collapsing on the couch because your body gave out before you did.

I mean real, intentional, put your phone down, stop trying to earn your right to breathe kind of rest.

But you don’t know how to do that, do you?
Because rest makes you uncomfortable.

You’re Addicted to the Hustle & Bustle, Not Because It Works—But Because It’s Familiar

Let’s call a spade a spade.
You’ve tied your worth to how useful you are.
You’ve confused exhaustion with excellence.
You’ve worn burnout like a badge of honor.

And now? You don’t know who you are when you’re not doing.

🔥 The Tea: You say you want peace, but the moment things slow down, you create chaos just to feel in control again. Then you claim “life happened”.

You clean obsessively. You overwork. You start projects you have no business starting just to avoid the stillness.
Because in the stillness? You’d have to feel things. You’d have to face yourself.
And baby, lets bffr. That’s the part you’ve been running from.

You Can Not Heal in Motion

You’re trying to heal while staying busy.
You’re trying to grow without grounding.
You’re trying to glow-up while running on fumes.

But you can’t fix what you refuse to slow down long enough to see.

✨ Clarity lives in quiet.
✨ Alignment lives in stillness.
✨ Healing lives in rest.

You keep pushing yourself like you’re in a race—but you never stop to ask: Where tf am I even going? And do I want to end up there?

🔥 The Tea: Peace sounds good until it shows up and you sabotage it. You don’t want stillness—you want productive distractions that feel like healing but aren’t.

You’re not running toward a goal.
You’re running from your discomfort.
And the only way out of it… is to sit tf down.

You don’t need another goal bestie—you need to learn how to sit with yourself.

The Gag Is: Rest Is the Strategy, Not the Setback

Rest is not laziness.
Rest is not weakness.
Rest is not optional.

It’s how you recalibrate.
It’s how you regulate.
It’s how you stop confusing chaos with purpose.

You want clarity? Sit down.
You want alignment? Sit down.
You want to stop feeling like you’re falling apart all the time? Sit TF down.

Let your nervous system breathe.
Let your body exhale.
Let your spirit catch up with the version of you you’re trying to become.

For the Ones Who Feel Like Rest Has to Be Earned

If the thought of rest makes you feel guilty, this is for you.
If you feel like you haven’t done enough to “deserve” a break, this is for you.
If you don’t even know what rest looks like because your nervous system has been in fight-or-flight since childhood, this is especially for you.

Let me be clear:
Rest is a birthright. Not a reward.

🔥 The Tea: If you’re only letting yourself rest once you’ve reached the edge of burnout, that’s not discipline—it’s self-neglect wrapped in achievement.

That’s not strength.
That’s survival mode dressed up as productivity.

And the worst part? You’ve learned to call it success.
You’ve trained yourself to believe that being exhausted means you’re doing something right.
That rest is a reward only earned by pushing yourself past your limits.

It’s not.

That’s the conditioning talking.
That’s unhealed hustle trauma.
That’s your self-worth tied to how much you produce, not how well you exist.

You don’t have to break down before you give yourself permission to slow down.
You don’t need a crisis to justify taking care of yourself.
You don’t need to earn rest with pain.

Discipline is powerful—yes. But discipline without compassion is just another form of punishment.
You’re not here to prove your worth through your exhaustion.
You’re here to live—and you can’t live fully when your body only gets to stop once it’s already shutting down.

To the Wives, the Mamas, the Caregivers…

I know.
You don’t feel like you have time.
You’ve got a schedule, a to-do list, people depending on you.
Your rest always seems to come last, if at all.

But hear me: It’s not that you don’t have time. It’s that you don’t make it.

If your child needed something, you’d make time.
If your partner needed connection, you’d make time.
If your friend called and said, “I miss you,” you’d find a way to fit it in.

So why does your peace always get rescheduled?

🔥 The Tea: Stop lying to yourself about not having time to rest. You make time for what you prioritize. And if you’re not prioritizing you, that’s not selflessness—it’s self-abandonment, darling.

You think you’re showing up as your best by running on empty, but all you’re doing is modeling burnout as a lifestyle.

Plan your rest.
Schedule your rest.
Put it on the calendar like you would a meeting you can’t cancel.
Prioritize it and make sure it gets done. No setbacks. No interruptions.
And if that feels foreign or “extra,” ask yourself why you’re the only one who doesn’t deserve structure around your peace.

And Another Thing—To the Workaholics: I Don’t Care What You Do… SIT TF DOWN.

Retail? Corporate? Full-time entrepreneur? Juggling all of the above?
You. Are. Not. Special.

You are tired.
You are overworked.
And you are not built to grind endlessly and still glow.

Let’s get everybody together real quick:

To the Retail Workers and 9–5ers:

Stop killing yourself to fatten someone else’s pockets.
You clock in, you give your all, and then what? They give you a 25-cent raise and a pizza party. FOH.

🔥 The Tea: What does PTO mean, class?

Prepare. The. Others.
Not “Please Try Overworking.”
Not “Postpone Til Overwhelmed.”
Not “Permission To Only Use in Emergencies.”

Being tired IS the emergency.
You do not owe your labor in exchange for validation.
You do not have to prove how loyal you are to a company that would replace you in a week.

Take the day.
Use the hours.
Stop waiting until you’re crying in the car, in the bathroom, in the breakroom, to finally whisper, “I need a break.”

And if they fire you? GOOD.
That job wasn’t your assignment.
That wasn’t your last stop.
That wasn’t your forever.

🔥 The Tea (again): If taking care of yourself makes you inconvenient to them—why are you still sacrificing yourself to stay?

Any place that punishes you for being human is not a place that deserves your gifts.
You are not lucky to have that job if that job is costing you your mind, your body, your joy.

There’s more.
There’s better.
But you’ll never see it if you’re too exhausted to even look.

And if it’s one thing Gen Z has taught us?
It’s to get TF up and leave these jobs the moment they start playing in your face.
No explanation. No tears. Just exit stage left and reclaim your peace.

To the Corporate Baddies:

You ain’t tired of being the face of the “team effort” while someone else takes the credit?
You ain’t tired of pretending that being overworked means being important?

Let’s keep it a buck and a half: You care so much about being “on point” that you forgot to check in with yourself.

🔥 The Tea: Prioritizing yourself doesn’t mean you don’t take your job seriously—it means you take your humanity seriously.

And if they don’t respect your boundaries, they don’t deserve your brilliance. Period.

To the Entrepreneurs:

Don’t make me pop your hand.
I’ve been there. I am there. I get it.

Being a one-woman show feels powerful—until it starts feeling like self-destruction in disguise.
You left the 9–5 so you could live, not hustle yourself into a hole with your own name on it.

🔥 The Tea: Freedom isn’t just about being the boss. It’s about being the one who decides, “Today, I rest.”

If you don’t have a day off built into your business, you’re not running a brand—you’re running a burnout machine.

DO TF BETTER.

And to the Ones Doing Both? Come Here.

You clock in.
You create content.
You fulfill orders.
You answer emails.
You parent.
You love.
You survive.

But when do you rest?
When do you eat, breathe, exist… for you?

🔥 The Tea: If you can make time for a deadline, you can make time for a nap.
You are not exempt from the need for rest just because your dreams are big.
A burnt-out version of you can’t hold the weight of the life you’re building.

So SIT. TF. DOWN.
Your grind doesn’t make you worthy.
Your exhaustion doesn’t make you noble.
Your burnout isn’t your badge.

Rest is the flex now, Bookie.

Your Assignment: Go Sit Down. For Real.

📝 For the next 3 days, I challenge you to intentionally rest, not just collapse.

✔️ Lay down in silence for 15 minutes with no phone, no sound.
✔️ Take a nap without guilt.
✔️ Say no to something that costs you peace.
✔️ Let the dishes sit. Let the laundry wait. Let it be undone.

The Tea: If the thought of resting makes you anxious, that’s your sign you need it more than ever.

You’re Not a Machine—You’re a Whole Person

You don’t have to earn your right to rest.
You don’t have to explain why you’re tired.
You don’t have to deserve rest to need it.

Sit down.
Not because you’re lazy.
But because you’ve been carrying more than your share for way too long.