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Continue reading →: Self-Discipline is a Form of Self-LoveMost people struggle with discipline rather than motivation. Accountability reflects self-respect and is essential for achieving one’s goals. Embracing discipline fosters freedom and self-trust, while consistency leads to desired outcomes. True self-love involves committing to actions that align with future aspirations, even when they feel uncomfortable or inconvenient.
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Continue reading →: Healthy Love Feels Like Standing Still When You’re Used to RunningI Thought Love Was Supposed to Hurt—This One Doesn’t, and That’s Terrifying I am in a healthy relationship. The first healthy relationship of my life. And it is the most challenging relationship of my life. It’s the scariest thing I’ve ever done. That’s saying something. Being a person raised on…
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Continue reading →: The Soft Life Isn’t Passive—It’s Intentional“Struggle” Isn’t a Personality Trait. You’re Just Addicted to the Hustle. Let’s be real: Some of y’all wouldn’t know what to do with yourselves if life wasn’t hard. You say you want ease, peace, and a soft life—but the moment things slow down, you find a way to struggle again.…
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Continue reading →: Rest is a Radical ActHealing Beyond Survival Mode No one talks about how much rest you’ll need when you finally feel safe. When I thought about this for the first time, it hit me like a wave. Because it’s true—no one prepares you for the exhaustion that comes when your body and mind are…
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Continue reading →: Softness After Survival5 Things I’m Learning as a Black Woman Unlearning Survival Mode No one tells you what happens after survival—when the fight is over, but your body still waits for the next battle. When you finally find peace, but rest still feels like something you have to earn. For years, I…
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Continue reading →: Welcome…A Black Girl Wrote This is a welcoming space for honest discussions, empowerment, and self-discovery. It serves Black women seeking healing while breaking cycles and embracing their identities. The author invites readers to connect, share experiences, and grow together, emphasizing the importance of feeling seen and challenged. Subscribe to join…
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Continue reading →: Think Before You Speak: The Art of Pausing Before You Pop OffThere are two types of people in this world: (for this conversation anyway, keep up) If you’re like me, you probably exist somewhere in the chaotic middle—constantly drafting responses in your head, running mental simulations, and by the time you’re ready to speak, the conversation has probably already moved on.…
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Continue reading →: Before You Go Any Further, Let’s Get One Thing StraightI don’t do small talk. I don’t do sugarcoating. And I damn sure don’t do performative healing. & this? This is not your Grandma’s blog. This blog might call you out… and that’s the point. If you’re here, you’re either on your own journey of unlearning, healing, and growing, or…
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Continue reading →: Softness Didn’t Make Me Weak—It Made Me DangerousThere was a time when I believed that being soft made you easy to break. That vulnerability was a liability, that showing emotion meant giving people the blueprint to destroy you. I saw strength as being impenetrable, untouchable, unshaken. I thought survival meant hardening myself, refusing to let people see…
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Continue reading →: Healthy Love Feels Like Standing Still When You’re Used to Running
I Thought Love Was Supposed to Hurt—This One Doesn’t, and That’s Terrifying I am in a healthy relationship. The first healthy relationship of my life. And it is the most challenging relationship of my life. It’s the scariest thing I’ve ever done. That’s saying something. Being a person raised on…
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